We’ve all been reading about the “Millennial Male Crisis”- lack of work ethic, no aspirations to attend college/trade school, still living at home in their mid twenties. I’m one of the few people who get frustrated with all the attention paid to this by the media “elite” because I highly value the anecdotal. And I surely received some of that yesterday in a discussion with my landscape architect!
After we had completed some work yesterday, he came in for a beer and a chat. He was down and it came out that of his four children, the two girls were off to fine colleges studying pre-law and engineering but the two boys (ages 18 and 19) had zero plans to do anything. D had suggested trade school and I certainly encouraged that because a good electrician can earn a salary in the mid six figures quite easily.
D was confused that with little prompting, his girls were chomping at the bit to make successful lives for themselves yet his boys had this disconcerting apathy. Not being a mother, I had little advice on this topic but I did mention that stats of college and advanced degrees were now becoming increasingly skewed toward young women. He knew that and even quoted some numbers right back to me.
I do believe this is a legitimate trend, so my question to you, dear readers, is Why?
ST UnWoked & UnVaxxed! 
Because young women are sick and tired of the status quo and are motivated to break the cycle
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Astute answer but cultural morays had changed by the time I came of age to enter the job market and I will give my father an enormous amount of credit for setting equal expectations for both his daughter and his son.
I once got a “C” in a class I took at a very expensive private college he sent me to and I considered not coming home for Christmas I was so ashamed! My dad could be very demanding but he prepped me well for an even more demanding world. I would have raised my kids the same way.
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Because boys are repeatedly told masculinity is toxic, so they’re afraid to give free rein to their natural aggression. They’re like the Untouchable caste in India, told since birth that they are unclean and fit only to clean toilets, Thats what has been done to our boys. I kinda wanted a boy at one point but now I thank The gods every moment that I have a daughter.
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But.. but… what ever happened to Nature’s Way of providing boys with testosterone?
I’m capitalizing this term because I’m hoping my favorite DJ will find one of Spirit’s songs and post it. 🙂
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P.S. To Hypatia: You wanted a boy?? Quelle surprise!
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Well just in the abstract. As soon as we knew she was a girl, we never looked back!
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“As soon as we knew she was a girl, we never looked back!”
Lol 🙂 Beautifully stated, Hypatia 🙂
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Girls and young women are people pleasers. Many or most will do whatever it takes to gain parental approval. Boys need an actual reason to do something other than, “we will be mad if you don’t.”
Feminism has destroyed any feeling of purpose for a lot of young men.
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I totally agree with your first paragraph. I guess I don’t have enough respect for feminism 2.0 to give them such credit (or blame) !
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Lol 🙂 I hear you 🙂
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