Simon, could you explain the Bigger Better Deal and how it relates to this video? I think I know what it is, but could maybe benefit from a refresher course 🙂
My understanding is that when you speak of the “Bigger, Better Deal” you are saying that women are willing to ditch one guy for another if the new guy seems like a better deal.
My theory, especially when it comes to women on welfare, is a little different: I wonder if welfare uncovered or unleashed people with serious mental health/family dysfunction problems. I once worked with a single Mom who had 3 kids with 2 different fathers: she was never married to either of them, and had been on welfare for several years. She actually came from a respectable middle class family, but her mother died when she was 17, and her father kicked her and her 16 year old sister out of the house shortly after their mother’s death, to make room for his new girlfriend. What kind of a father does that? Needless to say, their lives were thrown into turmoil. Having worked with her, I can attest that she was crazy, but how could she not have been? She and her three children were homeless at one point: her father was nowhere to be found. He was off with his new wife if their beautiful house, while his daughter and three grandchildren were in a homeless shelter.
There have been a handful of unwed pregnancies in my very large extended family: in those cases, the grandparents were all over it, to make sure that both Mom and baby were ok. But we are very pro-life: the combination of abortion and welfare has been toxic for women. When faced with a pregnant unwed daughter, some will just tell her to get an abortion, and they will abandon her if she doesn’t.
For those who may be interested, the book “All Souls” describes the white welfare culture of South Boston-it was written by a guy who grew up in the midst of it all. His grandfather was a respectable middle class guy, but he decided to totally abandon his 19 year old daughter when she married a man he disapproved of. She ended up having 8 children with 3 different men, and at no point did her father offer any help or support. He just threw her to the wolves. Four of his grandchildren died before they reached the age of 25.
Maybe because my entire extended family is militantly pro-life, the idea of abandoning a wayward young woman, especially one who is a mother, is something that I just don’t understand. Some people would probably say that the girls in my family are spoiled, and we are, but so far, fingers crossed, none of us are drug addicts, none of us are on welfare, and very, very few of us are divorced. I think maybe the elders in our family did something right.
I don’t have kids, but I do have nieces and nephews, and I consider myself a back up parent: for as long as there is breath in my body, I will be there for them. Granted, there are some very difficult situations with things like drug or gambling addiction, when the kid might sell the house out from under you. There are cases where it really is impossible to help an adult child, but unplanned pregnancies are not one of those cases: unplanned pregnancies are a no brainer: you do everything you can to help, period and end of story. Our welfare roles and government housing are filled to the rafters with women who were abandoned by their families.
Pretty much all of leftism, including and especially feminism, is an effort to destroy humanity, or at least, depopulate Earth as much as possible. TPTB in the feminist movement want to lower standards in the military to force women into combat: if the ERA is ever passed, women will be drafted. They may be drafted even if it isn’t passed.
It is very sad, but normal, every day feminists do not understand how sinister the TPTB who run feminism are. Every day feminists want all the advantages of being male, with none of the responsibilities, but that is not the goal of powerful feminists. The goal of powerful feminists is destroy humanity: sending women into combat is part of their plan.
I am 53 years old, and far too old to be drafted, but whenever I bring this up, I am accused of being a coward by useful idiots. How dumb can people get?
It is for you, Judy because I didn’t see stacks of single moms with bastard children very often when I was growing up in SEMO. What has changed in my lifetime?
This is the irony: I was a teenager in the 1980’s, after the advent of the pill, and abortion, and welfare. Some of my friends had seemingly libertine parents who encouraged them to go on the pill. These parents had no objections to their daughters sleeping around, but when a few of them (that I know of) inevitably got pregnant, their seemingly lenient parents were the first to tell them-order them, almost, to get an abortion, and it was understood that they would receive no help from their parents if they had the baby. Meanwhile, pro-life parents like mine encouraged their daughters to be chaste, but also made it clear that they would always be there for us no matter what, and I know numerous pro-life parents who walked that talk.
When I think back on the seemingly lenient parents of some of my old friends, and their decidedly unforgiving attitude when their daughters fell pregnant, I shake my head in disbelief. The parents who actively encouraged their daughters to have sex before marriage were far and away the ones most likely to demand an abortion in the event of a pregnancy. Insane.
Simon, could you explain the Bigger Better Deal and how it relates to this video? I think I know what it is, but could maybe benefit from a refresher course 🙂
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Tell me what you think and I’ll help you get over the target.
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My understanding is that when you speak of the “Bigger, Better Deal” you are saying that women are willing to ditch one guy for another if the new guy seems like a better deal.
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Yes and the point I was trying to make is that Uncle Sam is Her BBD.
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When it comes to some women, you are correct, but not all women are like that 🙂
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My theory, especially when it comes to women on welfare, is a little different: I wonder if welfare uncovered or unleashed people with serious mental health/family dysfunction problems. I once worked with a single Mom who had 3 kids with 2 different fathers: she was never married to either of them, and had been on welfare for several years. She actually came from a respectable middle class family, but her mother died when she was 17, and her father kicked her and her 16 year old sister out of the house shortly after their mother’s death, to make room for his new girlfriend. What kind of a father does that? Needless to say, their lives were thrown into turmoil. Having worked with her, I can attest that she was crazy, but how could she not have been? She and her three children were homeless at one point: her father was nowhere to be found. He was off with his new wife if their beautiful house, while his daughter and three grandchildren were in a homeless shelter.
There have been a handful of unwed pregnancies in my very large extended family: in those cases, the grandparents were all over it, to make sure that both Mom and baby were ok. But we are very pro-life: the combination of abortion and welfare has been toxic for women. When faced with a pregnant unwed daughter, some will just tell her to get an abortion, and they will abandon her if she doesn’t.
For those who may be interested, the book “All Souls” describes the white welfare culture of South Boston-it was written by a guy who grew up in the midst of it all. His grandfather was a respectable middle class guy, but he decided to totally abandon his 19 year old daughter when she married a man he disapproved of. She ended up having 8 children with 3 different men, and at no point did her father offer any help or support. He just threw her to the wolves. Four of his grandchildren died before they reached the age of 25.
Maybe because my entire extended family is militantly pro-life, the idea of abandoning a wayward young woman, especially one who is a mother, is something that I just don’t understand. Some people would probably say that the girls in my family are spoiled, and we are, but so far, fingers crossed, none of us are drug addicts, none of us are on welfare, and very, very few of us are divorced. I think maybe the elders in our family did something right.
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I don’t have kids, but I do have nieces and nephews, and I consider myself a back up parent: for as long as there is breath in my body, I will be there for them. Granted, there are some very difficult situations with things like drug or gambling addiction, when the kid might sell the house out from under you. There are cases where it really is impossible to help an adult child, but unplanned pregnancies are not one of those cases: unplanned pregnancies are a no brainer: you do everything you can to help, period and end of story. Our welfare roles and government housing are filled to the rafters with women who were abandoned by their families.
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Pretty much all of leftism, including and especially feminism, is an effort to destroy humanity, or at least, depopulate Earth as much as possible. TPTB in the feminist movement want to lower standards in the military to force women into combat: if the ERA is ever passed, women will be drafted. They may be drafted even if it isn’t passed.
It is very sad, but normal, every day feminists do not understand how sinister the TPTB who run feminism are. Every day feminists want all the advantages of being male, with none of the responsibilities, but that is not the goal of powerful feminists. The goal of powerful feminists is destroy humanity: sending women into combat is part of their plan.
I am 53 years old, and far too old to be drafted, but whenever I bring this up, I am accused of being a coward by useful idiots. How dumb can people get?
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Gender Complementarity on display: Rah! Interdependence and equality of opportunity rule.
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What has changed?
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I am not sure if this question is for Nanda or for me? If it is for me, I am not sure what you mean?
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It is for you, Judy because I didn’t see stacks of single moms with bastard children very often when I was growing up in SEMO. What has changed in my lifetime?
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Legalized abortion combined with welfare.
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Who can forget the hormonal birth control pill?
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This is the irony: I was a teenager in the 1980’s, after the advent of the pill, and abortion, and welfare. Some of my friends had seemingly libertine parents who encouraged them to go on the pill. These parents had no objections to their daughters sleeping around, but when a few of them (that I know of) inevitably got pregnant, their seemingly lenient parents were the first to tell them-order them, almost, to get an abortion, and it was understood that they would receive no help from their parents if they had the baby. Meanwhile, pro-life parents like mine encouraged their daughters to be chaste, but also made it clear that they would always be there for us no matter what, and I know numerous pro-life parents who walked that talk.
When I think back on the seemingly lenient parents of some of my old friends, and their decidedly unforgiving attitude when their daughters fell pregnant, I shake my head in disbelief. The parents who actively encouraged their daughters to have sex before marriage were far and away the ones most likely to demand an abortion in the event of a pregnancy. Insane.
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